38. How to be a parent

I may be 16 but I am not just 16. In my 16 years of existence, I have already visualized on how I should raise my future kids. It may sound a bit cheesy but everytime I see something wrong with what my parents are doing to me, I always promise myself that If I would have a child, I would do the right thing. Their mistakes were my guidelines. And because I am so generous, I'm gonna share it to you. And because I'm a 'she', I'm gonna be using she's in this post.

1. Trust her

Thinking that your kid was into drugs or addicted to alcohol without seeing it with your bare eyes was the best way to lose your kid. If you would keep interrogating her on where she went or if she did bad things would make her feel that her obedience means nothing because in the eyes of her parent, she's still the rebel one.

2. Be her best bud

Treat her like she's just one of your besties. It is because the best foundation of a relationship is friendship. But also be aware that you can't change the fact that your daughter is still young and couldn't understand greater things in life. If she told you about the flirt  girl in her class, don't give her advices that were meant for adults. It is because if she won't be comfortable talking to you, she won't open up to you ever again.

3. Don't check her private messages and never stalk your daughter's social networking sites

Invading her privacy could be the worst thing that you could do to you kid. Remember: as much as you want to know everything about your daughter, she wants to have her safe haven where she would express her feelings. And if she doesn't share it to you, that means you're not doing number two. But invading her privacy more to know her would only make her trust issue worse. So don't you dare try it.

4. Don't treat her like crap

Even though you're mad for her mistakes, treating like she's the worst person on earth would make her detest you for the rest of her life. Remember, violence never solved anything. A war never cleared the issues without getting thousands of people die. So if you would treat her like shit, even once, you've lost your daughter. Sorry, game over.

5. Try to understand her

You might be tired of spending hours and hours of working and want to break every single piece of glass in your house, but blaming your tiredness at her is the worst you could do. She may not be doing something but that doesn't mean that you have to shout at her for doing nothing. Friendly reminder: your daughter never wanted to have a who's-more-tired-between-us competition.

6. Be her role model

Kids always do what adults do and if she sees at home that her parent/s is always smiling and happy with her life, she would think the same way. 

7. Grow up!!!

If you're still immature and have issues with your pride, ego, boastfulness and anger management, I may say that you're not yet ready to have a child. Because it takes a mature person to raise a child. And being grown up doesn't involve your achievements in your career. Its more than that.

8. Stop treating her like your servant

You may have troubles financially raising your kid but you have to understand that she's not your servant. You may be used to have some people in your office to get you your coffee, or tired of being the casualties (for the others), but she also has her freewill. She can say yes or no. And you don't hold that decision just because she's your parent. But in some cases, if your problem with your kid was just some darn chores, you may wanna ask her properly, or hire a maid of you can afford it.

9. STOP INVADING HER PRIVACY!!

10. STOP INVADING HER PRIVACY!!!

11. REPEAT NUMBER 9

12. REPEAT NUMBER 10

13. REPEAT NUMBER 3

It may not be proven psychologically or whatever but I believe that these guidelines could be helpful for the others. 

Honestly, I didn't made this for the others to hear my opinion on how to raise a child. This is for me. I hope that if I would have kids, I could apply all these. Hopefully...

37. Sepanx

Watching television series and movies could not only escape us from reality, but also makes us believe in that fantasy. That is what I learned from all the years that I was obsessing with television series. Maybe this is the reason why most people have their attitude. You know what they say, to see is to believe and because they are seeing that some things could be done based on what they are watching, they would make it as a reality, though its clear to them that it is just fiction. Why am I telling this? Because I wanted to say that obsessing with television series could not only change our way of thinking but can also give us anxiety.

I had a lot of favorite television series like The Suite Life, Pretty Little Liars, Meteor Garden, Korean dramas (too many to mention) and others. But lately, I've been in love with The Vampire Diaries. I mean, who wouldn't? Just watching Damon Salvatore doing his bad boy act can make any girl drool in front of the TV. His charms could make any girl fall for a bad guy even though his definition for bad is cutting off people's heads, sucking girls's blood, compelling people to do what he says and ripping werewolves's hearts. Too bad, huh? But still lots of fans want her to be with Elena because he would do anything just to protect her. 

I'm pretty sure that I am not the only one who's a fangirl for a particular thing and I know that they know (fangirls/fanboys) how these fandom changed their lives. And as to my experience, it was not really good. I started to think that we could be all vampires at heart and that we could turn off our humanity anytime and could start not to care about anything in the world. I also started to have a vampire instinct where I think that nothing is permanent, including the lives of a person so don't get too much attached. I know its crazy but that's what happened to me. I started to feel neutral everyday and my neutral face can be mistaken as my angry-with-the-world face. That makes some random people make fun of me, which gives me more anxiety because I started to think that they're everywhere. Creepy.

But then I started to remember something, God will never leave your side. He will not make you suffer unless you betray Him and go to the other side. You can always trust Him as much as He trust you to do good things. And I believe that I will just have bigger faith in Him, the anxiety that I am feeling right now will be gone and will be transformed into courage. But I will not stop watching TVD because that's what makes me happy. Maybe I would just try to smile and be happy with my life. Maybe in that way, the bad aura won't come to me. And I'm praying that it won't! 

36. If short hair ruled, shorter hair will rule better!

Well, I have been posting my "throwback selfies" so now, I'm gonna post my latest selfies. Yay me! Not even sure if my title was even a phrase though...

35. Motha's Oath Taking

Okay, the highlight isn't really about my mom's oath taking but the dress that I wore on this event. Its so cute and I love it <3 HAHAHA! And where did that dress go after 3 years? Hmmm...

 

 

Maybe this was the reason why I decided to cut my hair. It is because these photos were taken when I was in First Year. And it kinda looked like my photos in Fourth Year. Its like I haven't grown. :( hahaha! Plus, I just like to experiment on my hair.

34. Hashtag throwback kung throwback

On my 14th post here on Blogger, I said that I could find some real friends in high school that I could cherish forever. It has lots of photos with some descriptions and introductions as well to every single one in the photo. But the blog was not concluded because I just shared the good part. And although these pictures were full of partying and stuff, I would like to share what went wrong with my high school life. Okay, maybe not really "What went wrong" but its.. what I learned from these photos.

       Well, I was still in freshman here and I really like 'that pose. :) hahaha!

 


I think we were teasing our classmates here. Okay, not relevant though.
 

Group pictures! Well, I don't need to name them one by one, right? You should know it already! (coz I already named them on my 14th post haha!)
 

selfie selfie. Time to selfie!
 

So these were the people who I could talk to for over half an hour and in the phone or text for hours and doesn't seem to mind. They were my like my 'soul friends'. Is that even a word?! HAHAHA! Well, I'm going to make it as one and they were them. But then maybe being soul friends doesn't mean that you could last forever. It is because the ingredient for an ever lasting friendship is trust. Trust that your friend/s would never stab you in the back.
 


PAAAARTYYY!

Another thing that I learned is that, being happy with someone doesn't mean that she would make you happy everyday. It is because maybe she could make you lugh now but the people who could make someone laugh easily can also make someone cry easily too.

 


I also learned that you could be close to someone now but you never know what might happen tomorrow.
 

Look at me at this. I might look crazy but when this picture was shot, I was happy with my life. But now?


 

My clique back then.. and now, they all detest me. Greaaat.
 

Also, be careful who you trust to. Don't share your opinions to just someone. Because there are people who are... balimbing. Like when you tell her something she might agree with you but the truth is she disagrees with you and would tell everyone that you are stupid for sharing your opinions.

 


L-O-V-E. But now, WHERE IS THE LOVE?

 

Oh my fab pose. HAHAHAHA!

 
 
 


Harriet! :) ahahaha! Haven't talked to her since I left MC. Missed her.






Maybe posting this one is a waste of time because.. it all happened. What more can I do? And its not like we're gonna be reconciled just because of this. They might even be offended to see me post their faces on my blog but that's not my purpose. Actually, I have no purpose at all. I just want to reminisce the last moments where I was happy with my life. And this was these photos. I just want to relive them and be amazed how something could change so much just because of a fight. A fight that I found dumb after all these years. Also, I want to share these photos because.. my hair looks wavy. And I love it! HAHA! But the point is, high school could change your life. It could make you change they way you think about the world and that thought hit me big time. Before, all I could think about are my grades, my crushes and my favorite show but in high school, I also have to analyze my friends whether they're real or not. It is because I was too confident that my friends at that time would be my friends forever but then I was wrong. Well, maybe I can't be friends with them ever again but I was glad that at some point of my life, I had felt that assurance, that joy. And I'm glad to keep these photos here in this blog.